“They’ll snap out of it when they turn 18” and other FALSE INFORMATION about Parental Alienation

It’s important to know the fact that a young adult who is alienated from a parent is NOT “an adult and is her own person and free to do what she wants.” This is FALSE INFORMATION that alienating parents and alienating stepparents like to try to convince people of.


You see, parental alienation involves control and manipulation and brainwashing with EXACTLY the same methods as cults. THIS IS A PROVEN FACT. The children are the cult members and the alienating parent and/or alienating stepparent are the cult leaders. Unfortunately brainwashing doesn’t automatically shut off nor do people automatically snap out of brainwashing when they turn 18 years old. If that was the case, then no one would remain in cults after they turn 18. Sadly, age is irrelevant when someone has been brainwashed and the programming will remain as long as the cult leaders are able to maintain control and manipulation of their victim regardless of age.


Alienating parents and alienating stepparents will also make statements such as “She is doing very well in her life and is not heartbroken without you.” This is also typical cult behavior, where the cult leader will try to convince outsiders that the cult members have “never been happier” even while being blocked from people they love. ALL formerly alienated children and young adults confirm that this is a LIE. All children NATURALLY love and want relationships with BOTH parents. Alienated children and young adults are NOT happy without the other parent. Yes, they must PRETEND to be happy as cult members MUST DO to appease the cult leaders. In fact, alienated children and young adults are often depressed and suicidal. As one formerly alienated young adult (in their 20’s) shared in one of my support group meetings “You’re tormented by the alienating parent and you can’t tell anyone because it would be the ultimate betrayal to the alienating parent.”


Consider how many adults remain in relationships where there is domestic abuse. Through awareness and education campaigns, society has come to understand why people stay in abusive relationships, even though it’s perfectly clear that they should leave those abusive relationships. The dynamics between the alienator and the alienated child is that of an abusive relationship. Alienated children (of any age) who display total allegiance to the alienating parent and total rejection of the targeted parent are stuck in an abusive relationship, exactly the same as when someone is stuck in a relationship where there is domestic abuse.


Relationship abuse is relationship abuse.  Abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over someone. Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual or physical and can include threats, isolation, and intimidation.  Parental Alienation contains many (sometimes all) of those behaviors to maintain control and power over the child and absolutely is abuse.


I urge everyone to please take some time to learn the FACTS about parental alienation. Please be sure to google “parental alienation cult” for many articles describing in detail how severe parental alienation situations operate EXACTLY the same as a cult. Food for thought…if a cult leader can brainwash thousands of people into drinking cyanide, another cult leader can brainwash just a few children and young adults to hate or pretend to hate one person.


Some experts that are great resources for parental alienation education are Dr. Craig Childress and Dr. Richard Warshak. These experts are highly respected for their many years devoted to study and research. I’m very fortunate that these world renowned experts have contributed to and supported my efforts to increase parental alienation awareness and education.  They have many excellent educational materials available to the public and professionals.  Their work is very important and their books, articles and videos should be known to all licensed mental professionals, school districts, family law attorneys and targeted family members.


For more information about parental alienation, what experts call “the worst form of child abuse,” please join my online group http://www.facebook.com/groups/paaonorthtexas/.


Wendy Archer-Perry
Parental Alienation Education Advocate
Subject of the documentary Divorce Corp
Host & Chairperson of Parental Alienation Symposium 2017

“Parental Alienation can happen to ANYONE so it should matter to EVERYONE!”



  1. Diane Mackie

    Wendy…Thank you for explaining PA so well!

    1. TargetAdmin (Post author)

      Thank you for your support Diane! I try to explain it in a way that everyone can understand it – it’s great to get feedback! Thank you!


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